Some of us are diagnosed (I have Hypermobility Type, formerly known as Type 3), but there are many others who are not yet diagnosed.
This genetic and incurable condition affects all systems of all tissues in the body, and thus the symptoms are varied and unpredictable. We have many sensitivities and our tissues are fragile and we don't heal well. Many commonly used anesthetics are less effective for some of us and ineffective for others.
Doctors are currently not well trained to recognize this connective tissue disorder (or others) so we rarely get proper care and treatment, and insurance can be even more ignorant with their policies. We have wrongly been told by ignorant doctors that testing shows nothing is wrong, simply because these doctors don't know how to test or what to look for.
Please realize that we don't have the luxury of forgetting about this condition because we typically suffer multiple symptoms at any given time. Understandably, we may be moody, frustrated, or depressed at any given time. We are trying to survive in this unfair world, basically taking care of ourselves and each other, since we frequently know more about EDS than many of our doctors. We read the studies, share experiences, and support each other as well as we can, just to make it on a daily basis.
We may look like healthy people on the outside, but our joints may easily subluxate or dislocate, causing painful injuries from the slightest movements, and sometimes from no movement at all. We get arthritis at an early age because of the additional wear and tear on our joints. We bruise easily and don't heal well. We suffer various digestive issues. We may have life-threatening allergic reactions due to mast cell instability. We have trouble regulating our blood pressure and body temperature and may feel faint or pass out from various triggers, and sometimes the triggers are unknown.
Please know that EDS is affecting me and quite possibly others you know and runs in families.
Please know that the stranger who is walking slowly ahead of you may be one of us, trying to get by without further injuring himself, even if he has no cane or brace. He is in pain. Do not hassle him if he has a handicap placard and is parked in a handicap spot. This disease is invisible.
Please know that when a coworker needs frequent time off it may be due to a flare up or injury that is causing myriad symptoms that prevent her from being able to live life for a while. Know that she is frequently unpaid for this time off after burning through all of her paid sick and vacation time. She is not enjoying these days off work; she is trying to let her body heal a bit until the pain levels are tolerable enough to work again. Know that she needs the income and insurance more than most, even though many of her specialists and treatments don't even accept insurance. She does not have a lot of options.
Know that when when a passenger next to you on the train or in an elevator is covering his face to protect himself from the fragrances in the air, it is because he is already dealing with plenty of symptoms, and that the fragrance causes instant migraine headaches, nausea, and lightheadedness and he needs to protect himself from these additional symptoms, especially if he is on his way to work and has to survive a full day, and is already at a stark disadvantage compared to many of his coworkers.
Please spread the word about this disease so doctors can catch up and be more helpful, or at least stop putting us in danger of further harm. You don't need to wear a zebra ribbon, but if you can share information and understanding with others, we can hope to get the medical attention and expertise we need to get by in this life.
For more information please visit The Ehlers-Danlos Society at https://www.ehlers-danlos.com/what-is-eds/ .
